Comments on: Why Your Husband Doesn’t Want Pregnancy Sex

By: Dymondzncurlz

Dymondzncurlz — Sat, 12 May 2012 18:05:00 +0000

To mw: there was one who commented on “nature” and that it was the female’s job to find the best man suitable to get her pregnant. Your girlfriend has done this. The rest of us are sad that we have not.

By: Benny

Benny — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 12:29:40 +0000

Women are selfish hypocrites, and pregnancy sex is depraved and disgusting. Grow up.

By: Jackie

Jackie — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 01:02:37 +0000

Well as soon as my husband found out I was pregnant he walked out the door and never came back. He quit his 6 figure job and abanded his BMW in a grocey store parking lot, and an envelope that contained his car keys, all credit cards, cell phone, ss card, medical card and his drivers licence, and a very hurtful note. I’m glad I left I couldn’t stand a big gut pregnant slob, I hope your happy with your little future doper. That is not all after I was in the hospital delevering he came back and cancelled the lease on our apartment, sold all the furniture and threw out all my clothes . I’m currently living in a womens shelter with my baby girl. I never thought my life would turn out like it has. I’m depressed and can’t afford to see a doctor. I might have to give up the baby for adoption.

By: bubbles

bubbles — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 12:19:51 +0000

omg i really cant believe some of the males and females! on here ?? Thinking of cheating on their partners because of high or low sex drives, what ever the problem in the relationship there is NO excuse to cheat!! I seriously feel like ive come to the wrong place to even state my situation… Tho it has nothing to do with my boyfriend not wanting sex . I am 29 weeks pregnant and Its actually the fact that we have been trying tho ive had days there with intense pelvic pain which is making it quite hard to finish our session. Which has put my bf off a bit to the fact that it does sometimes cause me pain. Tho our situation does not at all have any of us thinking of cheating on each other. We still love each other. That is what love is about through thick and thin stand by each other! not every male is out there to cheat most males find pregnant women attractive!

By: Christopher

Christopher — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 10:46:56 +0000

To Sadnessmama, your doing all the work, having the baby is hard enough, why do more work giving this man a bj when he doesn’t deserve it. What i would do would be to not do ANYTHING and tell him to act like a man. My wife always complains about how terrible it feels to be pregnant, i can’t even imagine, i hope he treats you better after the pregnancy, if not then he’s not worth your time.

By: matt

matt — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 10:42:29 +0000

im a soon to be dad, any man who doesn’t want to have sex with his wife willing to go through the pain of bring a beautiful child into the world is a fool. Temporary tummy, yeah no shit she’s pregnant!

By: Sadnessmama

Sadnessmama — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 09:38:26 +0000

Ok … So im a put this truthfuly out there … Im 27weeks pregnent 2nd pregnency with my 2nd husband I have 4kids total … He will not touch me … All he asks for is a bj … I give him bjs but dont not get nothing back ever … Even at times we do have sex he doesnt touch me … what do I do ?

By: hmm

hmm — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 06:12:35 +0000

my god ah ah ah ah mmm breastfeed milk suckle

By: Pregno

Pregno — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 06:08:59 +0000

It is tough knowing that your partner can’t or won’t bother trying to satisfy you especially when you can recall multiple occasions when you were not in the mood but wanted to satisfy him because you love him. Now it is as if he doesn’t love you enough to try to satisfy you and your urges. It is very difficult to cope with and can make you question the strength of the relationship and your own feelings about your love for him. It is like revenge is what you want but that isn’t healthy so you just want to call it off. The pregnancy hormones are not helping either. Is it selfishness when he is not even willing to try?

By: Timothy

Timothy — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 06:33:47 +0000

As a guy with a 3rd trimester wife I thought I’d just put in my 2 cents to help some of you women out. If you want your husband to think of you sexually, then DON’T make him watch 500 videos of women giving birth, don’t talk about every gory detail of birth and basically try to remain at least somewhat of a sexual creature to him instead of purely a reproductive being. My wife is gorgeous with a great body and typically I’m very attracted to her, even while (very) pregnant she is sexy and beautiful. But do you know what isn’t sexy at all? HOURS AND HOURS OF TALK ABOUT BABIES! I want a ton of children and LOVE LOVE LOVE babies, but they AREN’T sexy, the are the opposite of sexy. I wish she’d understand that for every birth video I have to watch I need about 3 days off from sex to see her as a mystical sexual woman again instead of livestock ready to give birth. I’m being overly harsh but you get the point. I, in no way shape or form, would ever want to watch my child come out of my wife’s vagina. If I saw that I wouldn’t want to have sex for months. I love feeling my wife’s belly to feel the baby move. It’s so amazing! But it definitely doesn’t turn me on! Honestly I’d be shocked if any guy could have sex with their wife within 10 minutes of feeling their baby move. Creepy.

By: bellyflop

bellyflop — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 00:09:41 +0000

i’m on my 27th week, really horny everyday …i’ve tried making the first move, but didn’t work out…i just sleep it off..i’m glad some guys posted their thoughts too..at least it opened my mind,.coz i never really talked to him about it..anyway, the baby will be out soon..so let’s just hope we’ll go back to what it was bfore gettng knockd up..or even better…

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 19:03:32 +0000

Matt is just a JERK!.. Seeing these male comments only makes me even more angry with my partner and sure that now when he finally wants sex again I will hand him a tube of vaseline and a tube sock!

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 18:58:11 +0000

To “the Guy” don’t forget that your wife “does” still have feelings and needs and it is not only about “your” instincts wether you feel it is natural or not. It would be EXTREMELY selfish to hide behind THAT excuse.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 18:50:32 +0000

Men are such asses. They never realize how they ruin things with thier selfishness. The same thing happend to me. No matter how much I cried or how angry I was, nothing. The last time I mentioned it he practically told me to shut up he was tired of hearing about it. Never gave me a valid reason and denied every reason I came up with it. Our son is 5 months, things never got back to being the same. We have had sex like twice, but it was not the same, for me anyways. I still have alot of anger and cannot even look at him the same way. He has apoligized, we have gone over it . I think now he realizes what he has done to me and us.But it is all said and done. We get along and care about eachother, but that part of us is gone. I think what it will take is ME to have to work on getting it back. But I can’t. What I need is HIM to work REAL hard, like when we first met, but he probabally wont.

By: Deb

Deb — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 14:15:23 +0000

Im glad im not alone. Im 39 weeks pregnant and my husband and i have always been very sexual even throughout my pregnancy. It wasnt planned but we are both very happy about it. The last 2 weeks or more he has just stopped being interested in me sexually, the one day we were going to do it he couldnt even get it up except for a minute or so befor it died, which came as a huge shock since that never happened befor and it has been awhile since we have had sex, then the next day he starts talking about how we had amazing sex the other night and how i have forgotten about it. I cant even talk to him and tell him how this is making me feel so ugly and fat( which i would figure since i have already been having trouble dealing with my pregnancy wieght and comments from family members saying im fat even though i have only gained baby weight and not much extra, and him being pissed for them making me feel like shit and now his doing the same thing) and unattractive. he thinks i am bad mouthing him and putting him down and then he says little things like oh i was planning on having sex with you tonight or there was other nights but you just turned me off it, or says things like he is going to wake me up when he goes to take a shower or today we will have sex and it never happens and he wonders why i get down and upset and then he just makes me feel bad saying that i have ruined his night by being mad or upset or because im just laying in bed. i really dont know what he expects from me since he works all day comes home wants time to his self which is till like 3 in the morning so i dont get to spend time with him plus i cant see my family right now or friends so yea i am going to be a little down and upset especially if he thinks coming and laying beside me in the bed for 5 minutes and then leaving and not coming back to bed till 3 or later is spending quality time with me. anyways sorry i had to vent i dont have anyone i can talk to and it has been bugging me for quiet sometime now.

By: TheGuy

TheGuy — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 13:56:40 +0000

Correction:

I am 95% not interested in sex with her at all.

By: TheGuy

TheGuy — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 13:55:09 +0000

I am a guy that currently has a wife about to give birth to my second child. I cannot speak for most guys but in trying to identify reasons why I did not want sex with my wife once she became pregnant, I found the answer. When a guy/husband/bf/etc gets his lady pregnant, his job is done. It is a primordial instinct to not want to have sex with a pregnant woman because she is already pregnant. I know I love my wife, I am attracted to my wife, yet when she is pregnant, I am not 95% not interested in sex with her at all. At first, I thought it had to do with hurting the baby or maybe because she was gaining weight, or even being nervous. However, as I investigated these reasons, I knew that I was being irrational and making excuses. Subconsciously, it was the fact that she was pregnant that turned me off. Instincts kick in…you can’t get a woman pregnant twice. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing BUT looking at it in its most basic form, it is simply designed to continue the survival of a species. A mans job is to impregnate a woman and a woman’s job is to find the best man to reproduce with and care for her young. Today, we know that this basic form of continuing the species has many other variables to it.

A man may never really know why he doesn’t want to have sex with his wife when she is pregnant.

After my wife gave birth to our first child, after a few weeks, I was interested in sex with her again.

Hope this helps.

By: red

red — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 19:23:21 +0000

Ok im 37 weeks pregnant now and up until 3 weeks ago my bf always wanted to have sex. I wanted it but not as much as him but he still got it a few times a week. Well i bought him a new iphiPhone for him for our anniversary and simce then we have had sex once. Not saying that’s the reason. He says its creepy cause the babys gead and i lodt my mucus plug which i understand. Its weird. But he wont touch me. Wont cuddle me unless i beg him. He has nwvenever rubbed my belly much. I lost a set of twins at 22 weeks almodt a ywar ago. He never had this problem then. And one of their heads was always down there. And after i lost them he always wanted to habe sex even though i was so depressed. But i still gave it tto him more than im getting now. Ugh. I love him its just frustrating!

By: Caity

Caity — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 02:45:20 +0000

Okay I am thirty two weeks pregnant and my fiance and I just stopped having sex. Now of course I do feel totally ugly and unwanted but I am in no way mad at him. For one thing this isn’t technically his baby. He knows that and is okay with it. But it must make it hard. And I know that sex can make him worry if he is going to hurt me. Sometimes I Might forget these things but I know its all true. The part that hurts me the most is that for the past month or so he won’t come around my belly. He tells me he rubs it at night when I am asleep but when I am awake he won’t touch it or have anything to do with it. Is there something wrong? Does he not want the baby anymore? If not I totally understand and wouldn’t press him on it. I just want to know what makes him tick and all. And he doesn’t ever really feel like talking about it. I guess I will just have to wait and see. And girls to be honest, if you become very horny to the point of it being a huge complication, now is the perfect time in your life to get back to loving yourself to. Manual can actually be very stimulating and it lets you know where you want to be touched and how.

By: debbie

debbie — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 00:27:44 +0000

I’m 7 months and totally understand that its weird to have sex whilst theres a baby in there! its bloody weird for me! So I forgive him the sex totally. but he wont kiss or cuddle me either. he wont even touch my bumpand that is hard to deal with. I shouldn’t have to ask for a cuddle should I? have any of you men gone off even cuddling your pregnant partners?

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 18:27:58 +0000

I knew that I couldn’t hurt the baby. My problem was that once my wife started showing, I felt like my son was right there next to me watching while I was trying to sex her up. She looked absolutely beautiful and I loved her more every day, but I just couldn’t get around feeling like a pervert or pedophile when we got intimate. It got to the point where I couldn’t even get it up because of this. That was when my wife took notice (obviously). Of course, she thought that I wasn’t having sex with her and couldn’t get it up because of how she looked. But, after she prodded me with questions (and lots of crying), I finally told her the problem. After she stopped laughing (she thought it was ridiculous at first), she was very understanding. Especially after reading how common it is. She respected my position and didn’t feel ugly anymore (at least due to that reason). It also made me feel a ton better after I read about other guys having this issue too. I thought that I was just a freak until that point.

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 21:02:20 +0000

I never had sex with my wife when she was pregnant. She was unattractive just looked like a beached whale.

By: preggo =]

preggo =] — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 04:38:25 +0000

CHOUMYCO-
Thank you! I have been very hurt for the past several days, and cried myself to sleep because of thinking I was ugly and unwanted. He keeps telling me exactly what you said, but I thought it was just an excuse to not hurt my feelings (although it wasn’t working) However, hearing another man say it too helped so much. I will try to keep in mind that he can not control that. I will try to be close to him in other ways.

By: Choumyco

Choumyco — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 21:19:30 +0000

Okay! This is just my personal take on this and I will not feel offended if no one agrees with me. My wife is currently pregnant with our first child and I can’t wait to have him in our life. I’m already shopping for matching bow ties for us to wear. I love my wife to pieces and have I fallen in love with her even more during her pregnancy. I think that she looks beautiful with her mood swings and belly but at the same time I’m having a very hard time make love to her. I find that I need to work harder at staying erect to make sure that I keep her satisfied. I want to want her but there is a growing child in the mix and that changes the visual of what we use to do. There are no classes or literature on making love to your pregnant wife/girlfriend. I feel that a lot of men use the excuse of not wanting to hurt the baby while being aware that he will not hurt it in any way, but it’s still very different. It’s not as easy as before and you ladies need to understand that before blaming your bodies and feeling unwanted for this. We are afraid of the situation as much as we don’t understand what you are going through it. Your sex drive is at the topping the charts as ours are dwindeling as your belly grows and neither of us have any control of the situation. I don’t want any one else but her and I know that once the baby is born I will want her just as much as before but for the time being it’s not the same. The women on this blog should take into consideration that things have changed with a child on the way but don’t think that this is it. Your boyfriend/husband will love you and feel attracted to you just like before if not more.

By: da_missus05

da_missus05 — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 03:17:15 +0000

This is my 2nd pregnancy- I’m currently 22 wks. My husband hasn’t touched me since late August/early September. I’m a hormonal/ horny mess. I’ve taken to sleeping in one of our extra bedrooms. I say- what’s the point of sleeping next to a man who won’t even cuddle with me? get absolutely NO physical contact of any kind. And it is really having an effect on how I feel about him and our marriage. He says he doesn’t want to hurt the baby but the sorry bastard will let me do 5 loads of laundry – from the basement to the upstairs bedrooms- and not say a word. What gives??