20 Things That Cease to Be Important after the First Baby Has Arrived
As soon as you have a new arrival in the family your life has drastically changed in many ways that you may not even recognize at first. You will start discovering that so many issues that seemed to you grossly important a short while ago don’t seem to matter any more. You only shrug at things that used to make you fidget with excitement. This list includes 20 things that ceased to attract with the newcomer in the family.
Thank God it’s Friday
It certainly used to be so, with much hilarity and joy at the oncoming weekend, but now it’s just another evening full of playing around and hiding the iPhones from the tiny grabbing hands.
Surfing the internet
No time for such laid-back occupations any more… Unless you’re a member of a good mothers’ forum, in which case you will connect at times.
Books
Laid aside for future use… Probably. Better not get into the kid’s hands.
Quickies all over the apartment
That’s the time when sex gets scheduled, to be had after you have completed (more or less) your chores. The reminders that you are a mom are everywhere, and somehow it can take the edge off the pleasure.
Regular manicures
Going out for a manicure? Oh no. It will be your friend or maybe your elder daughter who will oblige. The result is quite decent, y’know.
Getting socks on right
Well, you have managed to get socks on the baby’s feet? Fine job, and who cares if they turned out to be of different patterns?
Perfectly cleaned rooms
A dream that won’t come true for another couple of years.
Your hair getting daily attention
Unfathomable, there’s no time for it now, and you have to fall back on the beauty of a natural unkempt mane.
Happy hour specials forgotten
With so many things to do, it’s not very likely that you remember about them.
Privacy off
Whatever you do, you already know that the little one will be crawling around your legs or trying to jump on you.
Shunning body fluids
Blood, saliva, snot and other body fluids which caused some flinching before are now dealt with in a matter-of-fact fashion.
Weekends out
Yes, it can happen, but as you begin to think of packing and arranging involved, you find yourself reluctant to pursue the plan. Maybe it will be far more comfortable when the little one has gotten older and can take part in the arrangements.
TV shows
You got in the habit of recording the shows you want to see. Did you remember to watch them later?
Getting new clothing
It’s clothes for the kids that you are focused on now, not ones for yourself.
Food fastidiousness
Completely left behind, the nutrition side winning all the way.
Purchasing a posh car
The superficies are only outside, after all; leg room is now the priority. A minivan becomes the family car.
Night’s rest
There’s only some of it left, and you grow to appreciate it like never before!
Meeting new people
So many new things are happening within your family, the kid feeding you with the hourly history of growing, finding new facets of relationship with your partner, that you are quite happy to limit yourself to the family circle.
Disputes with in-laws
While you begin to appreciate their help about the house and with babysitting, all previous disputes seem trifling and best forgotten for good.
Your private dreams about yourself
You were so self-centered before, and it has changed dramatically: what interests you now is the baby’s well-being and happiness.
Maybe your life has changed forever, shifting you into another gear completely; or you will get back to it later with the additional stimulation of an increased family who love you and want you to get on with your life plans.
