4 Ways to Raise a Long-Term Unemployed Person
A job is one of the best ways of self-expression. Especially if it is a loved and well-paid one. Therefore, if you decide to raise a long-term unemployed person, you will have to try hard. We are going to give some clues on how to raise a person who cannot stay employed for a long time and even abandons any attempt to get hired somewhere.
1. Overload the child as much as possible
Everyone thinks that by sending a daughter or son to ten clubs after school parents raise a future great boss, an outstanding scientist or a successful entrepreneur.
But this is wrong. In fact, the excessive workload at school age (some even start with preschool age) develops several very important qualities for a prospective unemployed person. First, apathy and lack of will-power. A tired child just has no time to understand what he wants, what he would like to strive for and what his interests are. By the age of 15, this child turns into a robot, at best – into a rebellious teenager who dreams of turning his life into an eternal holiday of disobedience. And he succeeds to do so quite often.
Secondly, procrastination. When an exhausted child realizes that after swimming and German he is expected to do homework until late at night, and this is repeated every day, including weekends, he quickly learns to use any free minute to procrastinate. His body and the overloaded nervous system try to somehow save batteries. The child tries to prolong being busy because as soon as he does his homework in algebra, there will be physics, English, and a report in history. Why should he hurry? It will grow into a habit then. The child will not rest for five or ten minutes. Nor even for a week.
2. Say more often that the child will never reach your level
It’s easy if your mother or father, or even both of them, have achieved a lot. But even if it is not so – a schoolboy or a teenager is unlikely to be on par with an adult. Compare the child’s success with your achievements. You will reach your goal if he chooses a profession similar to yours, which often happens in families where adults compete with children.
Do not forget to say the phrase: “When I was at your age…”. If the child has won a contest or a competition, got an excellent mark for some difficult work, you accidentally recall your own success, which will outshine the child’s achievements. You need the child to feel like your unsuccessful copy that will never surpass the original. This reduces practically to zero the motivation to strive for anything.
3. Never praise or encourage
No praise! To raise an unemployed person, it is necessary to make him hate any work from childhood. Turn a job into an enemy. Do not praise for good grades, do not thank for doing household chores, and if you suddenly notice that your daughter or son began to enjoy school, you immediately interfere with this disgrace. The more resolute you are, the better. “Have you made a report and everyone liked it? You’d better tell me what you have got in geometry. Haven’t you retaken your test?”
Of course, do not forget to give your own example. Tell the child regularly that you are exhausted by your job, that your boss is a bastard and that you would quit everything eagerly. Yet, it does not work: we have to work for parasites and hangers-on.
4. Control the kid again and again
Rigid and ruthless control is the key to success in educating a person who cannot build a career. First, this develops apathy. Will you be able to work hard, knowing that you are monitored all the time, every mistake of yours is noticed, and you will be punished for it a dozen times? The child will also fail to work in these circumstances. Being frightened and suppressed, he will understand that his imagination and cognitive interest are not needed. Instead, he needs a minimum number of errors. It kills any pleasure from work.
Secondly, the habit of being controlled does not allow to develop such a harmful quality for the unemployed person as self-control. Why structure your own time, proofread an essay, and try to evaluate your own work, if you are going to be double-checked, and in any case, there will be something to blame you for.
Most importantly, total control suppresses self-confidence completely. By controlling each step of the child where he could cope himself, the parent tells him: “I do not trust you. You will suffer without me. You are not capable of anything.” This is an excellent rule for an unemployed person!
Apply these four techniques regularly, and success is guaranteed. Your child will avoid any effort, competition, and criticism; his ambitions will be hushed, and he will become afraid of authoritative people.
Congratulations, you have raised an excellent unemployed person!
